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My friend just got engaged and is having this dilemma: Her and her FI love to dance and go out on the town, but both of them come from pretty... quiet families who don't really dance, hardly drink, and think a game of Scrabble is an exciting night (okay, maybe not entirely true, but you get the picture). Now, because of budgeting they are inviting primarily family, with just a few friends each. They're afraid that they will plan this awesome dance part reception that all of their guests will think is too loud and not enjoy. Should they compromise their wedding visions to appease the crowd?
Location: New York City, New York

asked Aug 12, 2013 in Managing Family and Friends by MsWhite

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Oh that is a dilemma! I would hate to change my wedding vision, but when it comes down to it, planning a party that everyone will enjoy is what will make the night memorable and not a flop.

answered Aug 12, 2013 by anastasia
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She should have her wedding party help set the tone for the night! They could do an awesome/funny dance number that would get the rest of the guests excited! If there's good music and people on the dance floor, others usually join in. (Also, dim the lights and make the drinks strong haha. Both give people courage to dance!)

answered Aug 12, 2013 by Tina
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Wow! I have one answer that might just fit: Have the quiet dinner/buffet earlier with fruit and punch and quiet first dance, cut the cake, garter, bouquet toss, then leave; go change into a shorter mini wedding dress and continue the party in the late evening like around 9pm, offering Alcohol and other beverages. This does work well. We've seen it many times. http://www.charlestonweddingphotographers.com/ http://pinterest.com/charlestonphoto/boards/

answered Aug 21, 2013 by charlestonweddingphotographers(expert)
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Meeting the needs of your guests should be a factor in balance with meeting your needs at a wedding celebration. By balance I say 75% your needs and 25 % your guest's needs. I the bride and groom love to dance, then dance music or a DJ should be planned. If parts of the family don't dance, that's OK. It's part of the learning process families go through when they go to a wedding celebration. They have to experience what it is like to meld both families together. Some of the quiet family will likely dance of the bride and groom and their dancing friends are dancing. Compromise on some of the small things that the bride and groom could live with out but never compromise on things that they cannot. That day is supposed to be the one day in their lives where good memories are held and fun is abundant. This is supposed to be their first and last wedding so the bride and groom should make it personal and meaningful to them with a small amount of compromise to guests. If the guests want a quiet area away from the loud area, maybe the venue has a second room that offers a break from the loud celebrating and people can pass back and forth so everyone is happy. BY the way, I agree with the answerer before me.....the first half of the reception can be more quiet with the music underneath all the talking providing energy and atmosphere and the second part of the reception can be load and rowdy!

answered Aug 22, 2013 by DJ Dave(expert)